Chapter 7. Attuning to the feminine
If you really want to discover the true potential that exists between men and women, and begin to experience the depths of loving, orgasmic, ecstatic energy that resides within the hidden layers of women, then the most important thing is to make a commitment to learn something from the wisdom of the feminine. Accept the idea that women have within them vital keys to life, that they hold within them that map to a hidden treasure, in another world in which life is more colorful and interesting, and love is more abundant. With that in mind, open your eyes and ears a bit wider, be willing to listen more, acknowledge more, see deeper into the realms of the feminine and recognize that your woman has a voice and ideas that are wholly equal to your own. Make the intention to create a relationship where the energy flows back and forth, both ways, so that you are both giving and both receiving from each other, and learning about each other in the process, rather than sticking to your positions that you’re right and that’s all there is to it.
Again, that isn’t to say that in an ideal world men and women should blur the lines, drop everything that defines them and stop being distinctly male or female. Finding balance between the sexes doesn’t have to mean, for example, that you make sure the woman is on top exactly 50% of the time, in the bedroom or otherwise. The important thing is simply for men and women to both be happy with the arrangement, whatever it is, rather than women putting up with things as they are and accepting that that’s just how they have to be, or vice versa. What needs to happen is simply for men and women to both open more to one another, and engage in a mutually cooperative relationship where they are both learning more about each other‘s differing points of view, and thus evolving and growing towards one another. That’s the way to bridge the gap.
But the thing is, women are accustomed already to opening to men. Women have always heard the voices of men. The thoughts and ideas and desires and visions of men are everywhere and have always been out there in the open for everyone to see. It’s the voices of women that have been stifled and ignored, hidden away in the dark, suppressed, distorted and ridiculed. And as a result their wisdom, their perspective and input that would bring balance and thus real peace, harmony and love to life has been missing.
So the burden is really on the men now to realize that, although our male-dominated societies throughout recent history have produced wondrous, great things, whether it’s grand buildings and sprawling cities, high-tech lasers and modern medicine, airplanes and computers, advanced weaponry, space technology, cell phones, the internet and the list could go on ad infinitum, something important is still missing. Something is out of balance. I won’t bore you with a long account of all the signs that our world is in a state of crisis, as we see the evidence all around us now, becoming more and more difficult to ignore and deny. And ultimately it isn’t something that can be proven. It can only be sensed, felt, intuitively known that things aren’t quite as they should be in the world today and that a big part of the solution is that the Goddess must awaken and rise to take her rightful place as an equal alongside the male God who has hovered over our cultures without a balancing counterpart for so long.
So I hope that you will enjoy, as well as gain some useful information from what some very intelligent and creative women have to say about all these thought-provoking topics in Part 2 of this book.